Building Your New Relationship
What You Need To Know
The bedrock of a relationship whose goal is a permanent marriage bond is built not in the many years that people spend in courtship, but in the virtues on which love and emotion survive.
In contrast, though, a relationship whose end nigh takes a much slower process. Love is something that grows out of two people’s acknowledgment of each other, and in a like way, it develops out of the two people’s acceptance of each other on an emotional level.
Love relationships are not automatic phenomena that everyone has to experience, some people are given the ability to love and be loved, others have the requisites of being loved, while others can only love but never receive love in return.
Therefore, as you enter into any envisioned lifelong relationship, be ready and open-minded to the entails of relationships and how they work.
This is a simple but much-needed initiation into the world of relationships, the scuffles and turbulence therein, while at the same time, I explore with you the beauty of love and the thrill of being loved and loving back. You can talk to me for verbal counseling and in the search for emotional advice.
What To Look For In A Relationship
Your needs in a relationship are the guides to what you do in the process. It is always an enticing pulse of emotion that raises desire and warms the body when you lay eyes on the object of your passion.
However, this is neither the definite dictator of true love nor is it the ultimate confirmation of permanent bonds. This kind of infatuation is the first sign of a rollercoaster love ride that ends in broken hearts, broken love dreams, and unmet passions.
Thus, a bit of caution is the only measure of guarantee that protects lovers. For any strong and good relationship, let us take a look at the things you treasure;
Security
When we talk about security, we care much for those signs that reveal a lover’s true intentions. In many relationships, we have what we call users.
This is someone who looks at only the benefits he or she is getting out of the relationship, not minding what he or she has to offer in return.
These are the sources of insecurity in a relationship. As a potential lover, you should secure your position in a relationship by understanding your role in the love affair.
It is not all about one lover feeling insecure in a relationship because of what the other lover does, but, it entails even one’s acknowledgment of their flaws or contributions to a relationship worth fighting for.
Comfortability.
This is the ability of an affair to bring peace and calm to the people involved in it. Unlike a comfort zone, a love zone is a place where one is idling actively.
There is a lot of emotional foray in the love zone, and thus, it is very important to set an emotional pace that brings calm to both lovers.
Very few people get to this intuition because most of them plunge into relationships on a whim. They mistake ‘grab the moment’ thrills for eternal bonds. If you have the capacity to tell the difference between the two, then you are the right person to love and be loved.
Love background of your partner.
At times you are advised to avoid delving into the past of the person you are about to start a relationship with, however, that is not my advice to you today.
What pushes people away from tapping into love history is not the desire to start afresh, but the fear of what the discovered truths might bring. Never build a relationship on skepticism and doubt.
Ask your lover about their past, this will give you an in-depth view of what their perception of love is. From this study, you will be able to know and understand what you are going in for.
This helps you make the right adjustments and choices on how you want to run your present love life. Understanding your partner’s passions, desires, convictions, beliefs, truths, vices, and virtues, is not something to be done only in the present.
Taking a walk down ‘memory lane’ will benefit you both in the long run. As a counselor, I always call for confidence and determined resolve in my clients to prepare them for whatever comes after. Talk to me now on +27639701292.
Sense of dependency.
Though not in a way that dependency is perceived, passion requires a dependable co-person. For the many times that you will cry, you are bound to find solace in three things; a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold you, and a calming voice to tell you that no matter how dark the present is, the sun will shine.
This is all and everything needed in love. That feeling of someone who is always there, who has been there and will always be there. Unlike financial dependency, emotional dependency is one of the strongest rarely mentioned virtues that people in a relationship look for.
Love Duality.
This is also known as the “voice of two” in love locution. You need a partner who plans with you, not the one who plans for you.
The reason why most relationships break is that most people accept the singularity of one domineering lover. If your partner always uses “I” instead of “We” whenever he or she is talking about things you can achieve together, slow down, and redesign your love life.
This is the first sign of a love in which your opinions will always take second place. Any good and long-lasting relationship requires the acceptance and acknowledgment of the dualistic nature of love. Do not settle for singularity where plural identification is required.
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Building Long-Lasting Relationships
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3 Things That End Good Relationships
Surviving the calamities that boil at the center of every relationship is akin to a dream. Long years of searching and wandering from healers to psychic diviners prove fruitless if one is not wholly committed to the survival of the relationship. There are five things that kill every good relationship whose future was first perceived in stone, and these things are;
Silence.
Though most consider it the answer to many a complex problem, love is not a problem to solve unless you deem it so.
Never listen to a person who advises you to cut communication with your lover in order to avoid wrangles. All decisions reached depend on the kind of communication that you make.
One important thing to note is the difference between nonverbal communication and silence. Click here to get more advice on how to communicate effectively with your lover.
Infidelity.
This is a common love killer, but not an ultimate. There are very many opportunities to rebuild a love life, that presents itself when one lover cheats.
These opportunities include talking to your lover and understanding why they cheated, how they want the love they get to be redesigned, and many other things.
After going past the emotional outbreak of anguish that is the aftermath of infidelity on the side of the cheated lover, solutions to buried problems can be sought.
External confidence and trust.
This involves a partner getting someone of the opposite sex outside the love bond, in whom they confide more than their partner.
This is different from talking to a counselor who in these cases has no ulterior motives. Many lovers pretend to have best friends of the opposite sex with whom they are not in love, this is a threat to an ongoing love relationship because a lover is assured of a person to rely on in emotional storms yet the person is not their lover. Your lover should always be your best friend and emotional harbor.
Rebuilding a broken relationship
Therefore, whenever your relationship feels threatened do not hesitate to do anything possible to bring it back on track.
There is nothing lost that cannot be found. When you look deeper within yourself and around you, you will realize that the potential to heal is within your hands.
Rebuilding from where you are involved understanding your present situation very well. When you are certain of the source of disturbance you can be certain of how to handle the currents.
- First and foremost, rebuild the communication bridge
- Accept blame when and where necessary
- Do what you do best, love like you are loving for the first time.
- The answer is within you, take a self-discovering journey.
- Accept change, sometimes the universe works in opposition to our will, learn to adapt.
- Look at the good things in your present relationship
- Work on the positive energy in the relationship.
